Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Everybody Wants to be Loved

I Love Love!
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I Corinthians 13:5
Love does not act unbecomingly; It does not seek it's own,is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered.In any relationship, but particularly in your relationship with your daughters, it's imperative that there be respect with love. Nothing will crush a spirit faster than disrespect.
For example, when your daughter shares a dream, or an idea, or even a solution to a problem, the worst thing you can do would be to respond with sarcasm or disapproval. You think you would never do that, but when they say something very different from what you were thinking sometimes you speak before you think. You respond with a sarcastic remark you thought was harmless and funny and before you know it, the enthusiasm that was on her face when she offered the idea is now gone and her spirit is completely deflated.
When you respect her ideas, you respect her.
It's also very important that you respect her feelings, especially in public. whether she is 2 yrs old or 18 yrs old. If she says or does something that is inappropriate or unacceptable in front of others, if it can't wait until you get home, calmly remove her from the situation and address it in private. And since we are studying the love chapter, remember to address her in love and without sarcasm.
You want your home to be a place where your daughter feels the freedom to share her heart completely. If you have held her thoughts and ideas with high esteem since she was little, more than likely she will continue to open up and share when she is older.
This verse also reminds us that love does not seek it's own.
This is Big because most women, whether they like to admit it or not, are control freaks. In a relationship where Christ is at the center, the control stuff belongs to Him. We are free! When our daughters share big things that freak us out we can rest in knowing that God Almighty is not freaked out or surprised by her creativity. If you can imagine, He loves her even more than You do and He delights in her. He's got this one!
In a mother daughter relationship where there is not love, there will be hurt and anger and communication will shut down. But no matter how bad it's been, it's never too late to mend or even restore a relationship with your daughter. It's no secret that we all want to be loved. Where there is love there is forgiveness. And where there is love there is restoration.

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love love love Ruthie

1 comment:

  1. Readers: do not read in the office, where crying might not be a good idea and you have the cute Australian guys asking if you need a coffee.....on the other hand, cute Australian guys! :)

    Love this Ruthie x