Tuesday, September 6, 2011


4x12 Gallery wrapped canvas
for sale
Holiday Market 2011

Hi! So glad you stopped by. I'm so curious to know what you think about this. There was a talk show on my radio when I got  in the car today. It was two men discussing the fact that one of them had a 10 yr. old daughter who wanted her best friend to spend the night, and her best friend happened to be a boy. The D.J. that was the daddy had no problem with the situation, but the other D.J. thought it was a bad idea. So they opened it up to the listeners for their opinion. I must admit, I was stunned at the caller's responses. The few minutes that I was in the car, 5 women called in to respond. Would you believe all 5 were mamas and all 5 were perfectly fine with the coed spend the night. After the 5th woman called, I actually thought I might be the crazy one here, and I quickly decided No, I am not into coed spend the night company. Now I could spend some time on this soap box, but I think I've made my opinion clear. The big issue for me is that I believe as parents it is our responsibility to train and to teach our children and to develop their moral character. More often than not parents are leaving that job up to the church, the school, peers the media. Movie Stars and magazines dictate what children wear even if its too tight, too short, too small and hideous! If the latest pop star is wearing it so are the children.
What ever happened to "Modest is Hottest?" Another blog for another day. When we become parents I believe we become teachers. If we relinquish our responsibility to grow our children's moral character then the world will gladly take on the task. And it will devour our children! No doubt!! We cannot cross our fingers and hold our breath and hope for the best. It is our job. I'm not saying it's an easy one, and I realize shaping and molding moral character in our children may even hurt on occasion.We need to wrap our arms all the way around or children and tell them out loud "I Love You!" even if they don't want to be held...because we all know they really do. Be involved, Listen, learn to say no even if it's not the most popular answer. Spend time with them doing something they enjoy. Laugh out loud with them. Teach them. Protect them. If we don't someone else will!
The whole "spend the night thing" might seem small and insignificant now, but small things add up to make really big things. I believe if we are diligent even in the small things when the big things roll in we're a lot more prepared to stand strong.
Love to know what you think. Even if you think I might be the crazy one! Leave me your thoughts.
Love love love Ruthie


  1. Hi Ruthie! Glad you are finding time to create and glue - I don't know how you do it. I love your piece above. Adorable!
    I have to admit that I was not a terribly strict mom. On the other hand, I did instill values and morals in my sons, and they are fine young men who are making, for the most part, good decisions. At first I thought that the overnight stay might be innocent enough, however, after about 5 seconds of thought, I decided this is not a good idea. It is not a matter of trust. It is creating a situation that could cause problems. A situation that could be easily avoided. I believe this sort of thought flows over into adulthood. Everyone is subject to temptation. In order to avoid that temptation it is easiest just to avoid the situation.
    Working for a criminal defense lawyer, I have seen situations involving children that could have been avoided if the parents had paid more attention and been more diligent in avoiding the situations. Bottom line - you are not the crazy one (unless we both are!)!!!

  2. Ruthie, I totally agree. And I love what you said in the last paragraph about being diligent in the small things that prepare us for the big things. Some days I want to give in to my 2 year old's whims because at the time it seems easier. And then I think "no, I'm the adult, I am in charge." Repeating that phrase to myself helps me follow through with my convictions and discipline.

    Great post and great reminder to stick to my guns --- even in the little things.

    I'm so enjoying your blog and art.

  3. Ruthie , I totally agree , love the glue project and you are NOT AT ALL CRAZY but right on !

  4. Ruthie,
    thanks so much for dropping by my blog and leaving a lovely compliment.
    I must say that I love this style of work.
    I also listen to talk radio and can't believe the stuff I hear.
    I think they're nuts to encourage boy girl sleep overs at any age.
    PARENTS WAKE UP!!!!! Sheesh!